Basically, the Lady of War is an Action Girl who retains an air of grace and reserve not usually associated with violence. If she's not a Pretty Princess Powerhouse, she tends to be otherwise highly placed or at least look and act like it. If she's not gentle-mannered, she may be an Aloof Dark-Haired Girl or arrogant and generally prissy and might become subject to a Defrosting Ice Queen scenario. Often, she's simply The Stoic.